TOMD: Had a massive falling out with my dad over his health, the day before his birthday. My father is fat. Borderline obese. He drinks far too much, without realising how much he's drinking. He eats too much, just from snacking all the time. And worst of all, he single-mindedly refuses to admit that there's any problem whatsoever. At 56, turning 57, he's getting on in his years now, and I am frankly terrified that his habits are going to catch up to him. He's an amazing man, and I couldn't have asked for a better dad, but he won't listen. He won't listen to me, he won't listen to his wife, he won't listen to my sisters, and flies off into a rage if you even so much as bring up the topic nowadays. I just want my children to know the incredible person that brought me up, my biggest role model in life. I never got to know my grandfather, his father, who died of a heart attack at 64. I'm tearing up as a type this out, because I've tried everything. Encouragement, advice, trying to bring him into my hobbies. Nothing works. I don't know what to do.