Alright, so morbid shit going on in my life and I had a little thought experiment that I would love people to take seriously.

Premise - You are in a relationship with a person, and you fall hard for them. Unfortunately just as things are starting to really gain momentum, your partner becomes I'll. It happens slowly but your partner is eventually diagnosed with a malignant brain tumour and there is no way to operate. Eventually, they pass away and as a young adult you are never the same, and never find another person who you truly love.

Question - if you could go back in time, would you enter into the same relationship despite the pain of watching the person you truly love waste away before your eyes as you are powerless to do anything, or do you avoid it and look for love elsewhere never hooking up the with the person?

 

I'm assuming this tumor will get them even if you make it so they catch it early? If so, honestly, I wouldn't get with them again. I just wouldn't be able to bring myself to do it, knowing how it ends and all. If the first time breaks me so much that I never find love again, the second time would break me even further.

 

If you could go back in time and retain all of the memories of this person that you had, then absolutely do it again. If you've loved and lost, having the ability to suddenly spend more time with him/her is more valuable than anything else in this world, materialistically or spiritually.

I'd give anything to spend more time with my grandmother again. I have a friend who would give anything to spend time with her boyfriend again. This isn't something that should be viewed in a negative light. It's a beautiful, wonderful gift.

And if you're going back with no memories at all, well, if you're the same person, what's to stop you from falling for him/her again?

I'm sorry for your loss if this is true. I'm sorry, too, if it's not, since you seem to be having a rough time at the moment and I hope things get better.

 

This part is the problem. Yes, you will never love someone like that again, but that doesn't mean no one will love you or that you can't love anyone else. Your loved ones wish well for you, and they want you to be happy. Grieve. Then open your heart to new possibilities.

 

Death is irrelevant to my belief on this. I always find repeated relationships from time travel to be incredibly gross on their own. There's always that element of grooming, even if you're talking about adults instead of adolescents. Trying to turn a person from who they are into the person you knew them to become.