Ignoring and not caring about your child is the very definition of neglect, not sure what you are trying to say there.

 

It is possible that the Dursleys were told, but just didn't care.

"Harry's arm got broken is some bloody thing called Quidditch? Good! Pass the scones, dear."

 

They didn't even know he was the Boy-Who-Lived.

 

The polyjuice thing I can see Hermione's parents not being told about.

Not because it wasn't dangerous, or broke the rules.

But because it was fixed, relatively easily and quickly, it's likely that the school didn't bother telling her parents because it was seen as unimportant. I mean, there were times in high school where I felt sick. So the teacher would send you to get some air and a glass of water. If I wasn't sick, then nobody would call my parents to tell them I had felt poorly, but it was dealt with.

The same flies for papercuts - you'd get a plaster, and get on with it.

I don't speak with anyone who I know went to a boarding school, but I can imagine that the school takes on a slightly more parental role, giving medicine/medical advice without parental input on the spot.

A quick google for "sick at boarding school" brought up this, which appears to be the guidelines a specific boarding school uses.

The things to note (paraphrased):
When a pupil requires overnight lodging, they will be sent home where possible.
When a pupil is offered medication, it will be recorded, and parents will be informed ASAP.

If Hermione was turned into a statue, I don't think it would be possible to send her home. Not only would it potentially slow down any treatment for her condition of statueitis, it would also be a risk to the Statute of Secrecy:
"Mister Granger, why do you have a full size statue of your daughter in your dining room?"

And, if there is nothing that the parents can do, is it really that important to tell them? Especially when they're muggles, who wouldn't really understand. They'd only throw a tantrum, not like sensible people at all, really.

Then when Hermione is revived, the parents get a letter stating "Granger, Hermione, received a dosage of 200ml of restorative draught, mandrake, due to a non-life-threatening illness. All is now well". And why would they be too worried about that?

 

Yup, that was the one.

Thanks, that was really beginning to bug me.

 

Admittedly working off memory on the books so I might be wrong, but it's entirely possible (and in character) that they were told, and just didn't give enough of a crap about him to bother remembering.

 

Wat.

Seriously?! It has all the shitty tropes I can imagine, with unrealistic human behavior and character bashing of the nth degree mixed in.

The writing isn't even very good; not only does it use 5-10 words where 3 would have been just fine, the scenes are boring, plot is highly contrived, and has a retarded amount of "TAKE THAT!!!11" from the author.

Edit: is this considered a derail? I'm sorry if it is.

 

They heard about Voldemort and his demise when Hagrid explained it to Harry in the hut, and Vernon commented on it, so they definitely knew his story, though probably didn't realize his significance.

Also, I choose to take that first post about Harry Crow as a really bad form of sarcasm.

 

As someone who was sent to an English boarding school across the country, it's not uncommon to not hear anything from your family for months on end. Boarding schools are such insular communities that it was pretty difficult getting used to the 'real world' after five years.

 

Makes sense. I have friends who were in boarding school from as young as 7 until they were finished with secondary school, and more often than not they have parents who went to the same/similar places.

 

His post was sarcasm.

 

Wasnt there a section in OOTP where they were meant to go skiing together but Hermione cancelled last minute and told them she wanted to stay at school?

 

Yeah, during the Christmas holidays, but she decided to stay at Grimmauld Place.

Already at this point, Hermione chose her friends over her parents. She's the one who modified her parent's memories to leave the country so that they would be safe, so that she could stay behind and fight. It's pretty obvious that she grew apart from them. Happens when you're part of a new, magical society, they're not, and you see them maybe twice a year.

 

Alternatively, a good way to make her 'my parents are still alive' ruse believable. Make 'plans', discuss them openly, then cancel them. Adds an element of authenticity.

 

In CoS Dumbledore sends them a letter telling them about Harry flying to school in a car.

 

Huh. Well, that's enough proving me wrong for today. I will graciously accept defeat in this matter.

 

I would hazard a guess that muggle parents are told very little, and are allowed to do even less.
They probably can't have magical books or papers because of the moving pictures. They might not even be allowed to refuse their children an education in magic, since accidental magic is still an issue for the act of secrecy.

 

What about that time turner in her fourth third year? You know that little thing they used to swamp Hermione in classes and keep her to distracted to think about the whole Serious Black has no trial record, is Harry's rightful guardian, and maybe trap/kill her via temporal hijinks?

Okay, no way in hell anyone in Hogwarts would keep Hermione's parents in the know. Well, Snape might have wanted to tell her folks, if they had a snowball's chance in hell of pulling Hermione out send to another school, like Salem. Would help make his house look good by taking the mudblood that keeps making them (or at least certain elements) look dumb out of the equation and the abandonment would (theoretically) hurt Harry.

But really, after the COS, no way in hell was Dumbledore going to let Hermione out of his "sight" (read: control) alive. Her knowledge of the events, particularly what Harry told her about the diary would be too risky getting into enemy hands.

As far as keeping her parents in the dark, Hermione did not lack willing allies.

Would transferring her to Hogwarts to another school be beneficial? Maybe, we don't know if the Death Eaters would discount her completely or if they would start sending Harry her fingers/body parts by owl until he turned himself over.

She was the only student to lift a wand to help Harry during the Tournament, and that's why Viktor went after her. (He even tried to entice her to visit him, if he believed that the Dark Lord had returned, he new how dangerous that would be for her). There is no reason to believe that Voldemort and the Death Eater's wouldn't. Actually there is every reason to expect they would given the Dumbledore put in a safe house the summer of OoTP. (Also good reason to think they might be dead at this time given the Weasely's almost completely moved in for safeties sake.)

It doesn't matter if the Grangers where the best parents in all of England, they had no meaningful influence in Hermione's life after she became friends with Harry Potter.

*edit* Considering the shit that goes down at Hogwarts maybe select students have spells laid on them to keep them from telling there families, like Susan Bones telling her Aunt about the whole Chamber of Secrets and every one saying HP was the Heir? Not hard to believe a facist like Dumbledore wouldn't like that.