What the fuck is wrong with you?

 

I felt the same way. Thats why I posted a link to all who were saying otherwise. And I did warn you so don't flame me.

 

No. I mean you, the picture is a whole other story.
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Why the fuck do you think its a good idea to post that?

 

ANYWAY...

Considering the seven year difference between the two of them, it depends on how old Harry is at the time.

If he's 17+, the Wizarding age of majority, then it's probably fine. Maybe a bit weird, especially if the two interact a lot when Harry was 15 or younger, but otherwise let two them date.

If he's younger than that, then definitely no. There's a reason why even consensual sex between a teenager and an adult is considered statutory rape.

 

This might explain why it could be illegal, not why it might be immoral. Even more so because we dont know the law in wizard england for that. To give you an example in Germany consensual sex between 14 year old Harry and adult Tonks would be legal (it is of course a bit more complicated but per se its possible)


I belive the question cant be answered only with age, it depends on the two people. In our case that means it depends how Tonks and Harry are written, how experienced Harry is and more.

 

Wait, what? Do I even want to know how that works?

 

The problem with this thread is that it deals with the issue of morality, rather than legality. It is possible to determine whether the relationship is legal or not, but if we are talking morally then it depends entirely on your personal beliefs about morality. Whether or not morality is subjective is, of course, an entirely different question (one could say that deciding whether or not morality is subjective is a subjective question itself

Also, this is fucked.

 

I think, at the core of the matter, the reason we don't allow underage/overage dating is because it is felt the older partner will be in a place of power to manipulate the younger. This changes once the younger partner grows and gains the maturity necessary to make those kinds decissions.

So...maturity of the two partners is the key factor.

Theoretically you could have a 10 year old with the maturity of a forty year old dating a 40 year old and it would be morally okay because maturity is what matters. Practically, that just doesn't happen in the real world. Despite being very fluid and nebulous, there is a very real correlation between age/life experience and emotional maturity. There is a reason we have underage distinctions and pedophilia is a sickening crime. Which is why, in the real world, Harry/Tonks would be morally wrong. Using canon harry, I would also argue its morally wrong.

However, in fanfiction, you can have a harry with the maturity of a 20 year old. It's imaginary. Its ficition, but the theoretical can become "real." So it could be argued, that the morality of the Harry/Tonks relationship is based upon how mature the author makes Harry. If the author makes Harry and Tonks emotional equals, the relationship (in fanfiction) is not immoral.

But, once again, that just doesn't happen in the real world.

 

This thread is like a dog chasing its own tail. round and round and round it goes...

 

Wrong Black Anarchy, it's about Tonks not Sirius.

 

Logically speaking, yes - any sort of sexual relationship while Harry is a school boy and Tonks is a cop is definitely immoral, and so anything within the Hogwarts time frame would qualify.

But meh - it's fandom. As long as the author doesn't go into explicit detail about how young anyone is, anything from Yule Ball on is more or less fair game. There's plenty of stuff even in canon that outside of a book would be seriously fucked up (the ZGF approach towards love potions being the obvious tip of the iceberg), but you roll with it in the context of make-believe.

 

Well I'm a baptist so I'm sure you can guess my blanket opinion on the matter of sexual relationships, but for the context of this question I'll just say that it depends on Harry's age and maturity in the whatever given fic this relationship happens in.

 

I'll kick one more thing out there that I haven't yet seen mentioned: the quality of any state-required sexual education in the country/society in question.

Germany, for example, has their age of consent at 14. I'm pretty much okay with this, because Germany has one of the more comprehensive and successful (teen pregnancy rates, transmission of STDs, happiness with first sexual encounter when their old enough to look back on it) sexuality education programs in the western world. And, they have laws which would seem to adequately protect children from predation by older people, in my admittedly spotty understanding of the subject.

By contrast, England has one of the worst (using the same aforementioned measures of success) programs in Europe. Neither of which hold a candle to the absolute failure of the abstinence only education taught in many parts of the US, but that's a different conversation.

With all of that said, I find it extremely unlikely that any relationship between a roughly canon interpretation of a 22 year old Tonks and a 16 year old Harry wouldn't be exploitive. Maybe, maybe, if wizarding England had a comprehensive sexuality education program (which I think any sane person will say it canonically does not, if it has any program at all), the age gap between the two could be breached, given Tonks depicted maturity level, and Harry's life experiences, but I highly doubt it.

Which isn't even getting into any issues with Tonks position of authority; but I think @Sorrows already pretty well went through that.

 

While I probably should have know better than to say anything regarding religion on an internet forum, it doesn't really make it okay to insult someone that has never really done anything to you nor does it make me incapable of intelligent conversation as you would seem to imply. If I post something stupid or derogatory then by all means feel free I would have it coming but otherwise I would ask you to not disrespect me when I have done nothing to warrant it.

That's all I'm going to say on the subject because I don't want to turn this into a religious argument that I know will never actually get anywhere.

 

I personally don't care at all about the age difference of HarryxTonks as there are far, far more offensive & potentially illegal/immoral pairings. I'm looking at you thousands of Snape/Hermione pairings.

However, assuming Harry is above the age of consent (16 where I live & in the UK as well), then I don't see how you can argue that this is any more wrong than the canon romance of Bill & Fleur, where they meet when she's 17 and he's 24-25. Especially considering that's maybe the only semi-decent romance in canon.