The clue's in the title. Which do you trust more? Which do you like more? And most importantly, why?

For me, it has to be family all the way. I've got some wonderful friends, some of which are almost like family, but they don't hold a candle to the real thing. This is mainly because of the family-orientated way that I was raised and the fact that I've had great luck with my family - not just immediate, but distant relatives as well. Call me old-fashioned but that's just the way I am.

What brought this question to mind was two things; one was "Friends" (the hit sitcom) and also the HP series. In both these cases friends were valued as higher than family (though with Harry you could argue that he had no choice). It would be interesting to see which way DLP swings but I have a sneaky feeling most here will choose friends.

Edit: Actually, it occured to me that most might choose neither.

 

Family... I don't have the gift for making great friends, so you might say I don't have much of a choice .

I can understand that very well. We're a kind of old-fashioned family as well... There are the grandparents on top of the pyramid and all the descendants know each other (more or less). I know all my first cousins (of course), but also my second cousins and a few who are even more vaguely related to me. There are all the great family gatherings, the holidays spent together etc. It creates quite strong bonds.

So yeah... That's family for me. Most of my cousins are also my friends anyway, so matters are simpler for me.

 

I really don't trust anyone that much, but friends come and go threw life, but family stays the same. So I would go with family.

However it all depends on the issue and some family I wouldn’t trust at all, but if I had equal trust in a family member or a friend, I would go with family.

 

I think it just depends on the situation really. There are certain things that I would find too embarrising to talk to family about, but not to friends, and others that I could only talk to family about but no one else. And for the friends, there's really only one that I could trust not to tell anyone something that I told him in confidence.

For something really secretive though, I wouldn't tell anyone. I'm not sure if it's because I don't trust any of them, or because I'd rather just not take a risk of someone else finding out; it's really just instinct.

If it came down to one of those hypothetical 'choose who lives or dies' situations, then I would probably choose family over friends. I think it's mostly in the way that I was raised, that family was considered the most important thing out there.

 

Family. I do have a lot of good friends, but a lot of people that were my friends, soon find a new group and become assholes. Family never does that.

 

hmm, I think I can easily say that I trust my Family the most, for I am not talking to any of the same friends as I had been 5 years ago, except for a few.

But, I can easily say I like my friends more. I like my family yes, but I don't spend my time with them rather than spending it out with my friends.

 

Family I have more Blackmail material on them to keep them in line then I do my friends.

 

I'd say family. I'm from a massive Scottish-Irish family, there's a hundread of us in my town alone. My family's also very tight-knit, I'm close with nearly all of my local relatives.

 

I love my family but most of them I don't like, there's a difference. The only family I'm close to is immediate family, because although my family is huge, most of them are back-stabbing bastards.

My friends I prefer because we have mutual respect, even then I still wouldn't trust them with everything. But I'd trust a friend with more than my family.

So basically I voted for neither because the only person I really 100% trust is myself. But then I'm a cynic,

Litha

 

I'm the youngest, the black sheep and have a different father to my older brothers, I was the result of a drunken one night 'affair' with a travelling punk/rock musician (no one famous though he apparently looked like David Vanian from The Damned) who my mother can't remember the name of, I do have one good thing though, I am quite petit for a 21 year old guy and I have been told I am the spits of Billie Joe Armstrong from Green Day and my Bro's are all big ugly fuckers! They all have blonde hair and were in the Army and I have black hair and Greeny-blue eyes and work in Music production.

They teased me my whole life for looking like a girl.

So It's friends I'm afraid.
My family all hate me! Especially my "Dad" who always disliked me because I remind him of my Mother's infidelity.

God this is like therapy for me!
Too much 'southern comfort' I think

 

For my mother, father, sister, and my best friend I would do anything without a second thought...If you were anyone else...It depends on how much I like you.

 

I would have to go with family. While there is the whole trust issue, if my "dilemma" is big enough you'd better damn well expect me to go to my family. Other than that, I usually handle things myself - I have a bunch of friends, but not a whole lot that I'm real close to.

The Hungry Basilisk: I empathazise with you on the prettiness thingy - but at least I'm 6'1. Mwahahahaha!

 

I'M only 5"6 Swimdraconian you are so lucky,
Most f**in girls are taller than me, And to add insult to injury! I was in Starbucks getting coffee yesterday and some old guy brushed past and said:

"Scuse me Miss"

Miss!!! I'm a 21 year old man with short black hair jeans, a T-shirt and no tits!!!!!
Just coz I'm of a small build and I have 'Feminine Features'(As my mother puts it)
Doesn't mean I'm a chick!

I would grow out a goatee or beard but someone would just think I was A f***in bearded Lady.

The only upside is that the chicks like to cuddle and 'mother' me LOL.

Sorry for the rant! I just hate myself!!!

Actually your avatar looks a bit like me only my hair is shorter.

 

Like some others here, I like my friends more than my family, but I still chose family. I'm not really close to much of my family (hardly know most of the ones from my father's side), yet my immediate family is more important to me than my best friends.

But maybe I'm just antisocial

 

I don't really know what I would choose. There are way to many difference between my family members and most of them are in a fight. My parents don't really trust each other.

I don't have much friends but the ones I have are trustworthy, but with my family situation of not trusting each other. How does that make me think of my friends? So I would say I trust myself above anyone else.

 

Ifamily, because we have really strong bonds, and I've had many friends who became complete assholes. for me, blood is thicker than water. family first

 

I have quite a large family, but I don't trust all of them. I think I could trust about... 2 of my cousins and my immediate family.
although with my friends, i've known them for literally all of my life. so i have so much blackmail material on them we've been through a lot, and sometimes you tell your friends what you can't tell your family and vice versa

 

I love my family dearly, but I'd be more likely to share a problem with my closest friends than anyone else. But like most other things in life there isn't really a cut and dry answer, it depends on the situation.

 

When you move around a lot, the only consistent thing in life is your family. Friends stay friends, but in the end you might never know a friend for more than 3 years. I do trust friends to a certain degree...especially when it comes to crap we pull together (like smoking weed), but its family I turn to with almost all my dark and deepest....

scratch that, I barely trust anyone.